As the mother of two wonderfully intense children, I often felt that I was reinventing the wheel when they were younger. I was a preschool teacher at the time, and thought that certainly, if I could manage a whole class of toddlers, I could handle two kids of my own. I loved my children but I was stressed out and often found myself desperately searching for tools and techniques. And what worked for one kid didn't seem to work for the other. I asked for advice from family and friends but everyone was using their own parenting experiences as a guide. I wanted parenting tools based on research and best practices but I didn't know where to look.
After teaching and supporting thousands of families over the past 20+ years, I know that there's a common thread to many parenting concerns. It's the fear that you're messing them up for life. It's the fear that they're acting this way "on purpose". It's the fear that there's something really wrong. It's fear.
Whether it's not listening, meltdowns, sibling fights, sleep issues, or a multitude of other possibilities, the key to success is protecting your RELATIONSHIP with your child. I often ask parents what they want their relationship to be like when their child is 15, 20, 30 years old. Sometimes it's hard to remember that your child won't be three forever! My goal is to empower you to stay in a connected relationship with your child, while weathering the ups and downs of raising your family.
I am a full-time faculty member at North Seattle College where I teach child development and parent education classes to families raising children birth-five years.
I did my graduate work in Education and am a Certified Gottman Educator, Training Specialist, and Public Speaker for the Bringing Baby Home program. I'm also a Certified Childbirth Educator and taught childbirth, breastfeeding, newborn care, and sibling preparation at Swedish Medical Center for 17 years.
Additionally, I'm a sought-out speaker in the Puget Sound region. I'm married and the mother of two lovely semi-adults.